Do you happen to know someone who gets offended really easily or upset or irritated when you correct them? Are you that person? Or maybe your like me and feel threatened or taken aback when people can't accept constructive criticism.
This verse relates to our lives everyday because we are constantly communicating with different people. This verse has to do with communication. It is spot on. You can't always control what people say but you can accept that everyone is unique and has their differences. And that's okay! We must deal with what we are given and do it with pride. God wants to shine through you.
Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.
– Proverbs 12:1 (NIV)
by Dave Whitehead, Senior Pastor, GraceNYC.org, Author of Making Sense of the BibleThe test of true humility is how people respond to correction. Do we constantly blame our surroundings or others for our situation in life? At one time that may have been the reality, but if we are honest we keep doing things that reinforce our bad decisions. That is why we need others who love us enough to correct us. Breakthrough is never done in isolation; it happens when we are bold enough to let others tell us the truth about our circumstances and ourselves.
Another email I received that I absolutely had to share. It's perfect for today and the world around us. I love proverbs there are so many good verses that resonate with all of us.
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
– Proverbs 12:18 (NIV)
by Dave Whitehead, Senior Pastor, GraceNYC.orgOur culture esteems quick wit, but many times that wit devolves into words that hurt others for a laugh. The Proverbs challenges us to see our tongue as a healing balm. How do you do that? It starts with what we are looking for. Instead of looking for the inconsistencies in other people’s lives, start to notice the strengths. When what we notice is turned into words, we can encourage others in ways that few people do. An occasional jab is fun, but may we be known more for the way we build others up instead of tearing them down.
My Response to This
I know in my family we throw jabs at each other but WE ALL know that's its for fun. And adds a little humor. We make light of things that can go wrong, but in the end we all love each other.
Outside of my family I personally don't do that unless that particular person knows me Aand my personality (<--emphasis on the 'and'). Some people can get offended and honestly, I would too. If I didn't know someone too well, and they were to throw a jab at me, I would think of it as being rude and inconsiderate. I would definitely be feeling the negative energy and most likely just avoid it. For my own peace. In light of our lifestyles, our stresses, our families, our friends, social media and the news, everyone has difficulty in life. It may be on different levels but we ALL have something we are going through. Play nice respect one another. R.E.S.P.E.C.T.
It truly is amazing and makes us feel much better when we give someone a compliment or point out what it is they are doing good at. It's good for their confidence, self esteem and also a mood booster. In turn they give us positive reaction which makes us happy. We can all use that!
Proverbs 18:13 (NIV) – To answer before listening— that is folly and shame.
Posted: 28 Jan 2018 09:15 PM PST
To answer before listening--
that is folly and shame.
– Proverbs 18:13 NIV
Dave Whitehead, Senior Pastor, GraceNYC.orgOne of the great principles of negotiation is to seek first to understand, and then be understood. We are prone to give answers before we know the full situation, which only makes the person we are talking to feel invalidated in their perspectives. Parents need to listen to children, children to parents, spouse to spouse, worker to worker, and on it goes. So resist the shallow sound bites that you hear on media. Take the time to listen to each other. You may find it the most profitable thing you can do.
My Response to This
Do you ever find yourself wanting to cut someone off really quick or interrupt so you can get your opinion in? Something they said really affects you and you want to get your point in. I have found myself in this situation at times and have interrupted others. Afterwards I think to myself I shouldn’t have done that. I tend to notice others body language and when I interrupt them, it changes their chain of thought. When I see this happening I quickly say, “I’m sorry I didn't mean to interrupt go ahead”... And they continue on with what they were saying. And I take a mental note of what it is I wanted to say so when they are done I can give my response.
As people talk it’s important we allow them to say what they are going to say. The conversation will run much more smoothly and positively if we respect others and value their opinion. When we interrupt we are letting them know we don’t care what else they have to say, therefore we don’t value their opinion. We are cutting them off. We are cutting off the conversation to our own benefit. How does that make them feel?
But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength, so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed and all the Gentiles might hear it. And I was delivered from the lion’s mouth.
– 2 Timothy 4:17 (NIV)
by Dave Whitehead, Senior Pastor, GraceNYC.org, Author of Making Sense of the Bible God does not leave us alone when we face overwhelming odds. Paul felt abandoned by others, but he was not separated from God. Paul knew that God had a purpose for him that was yet to be fulfilled, so Paul was able to stand strong even in the midst of incredible danger. This is the confidence that any man or woman who calls on Jesus should lean on—that God will give you strength, for He has a destiny for you to fulfill.
..and my response to this verse
If you are going through tough times or if you feel like you dont have any support just know that God is your support. Whatever trials or tribulations you may be having, God knows about it, he has a plan for you, and it is through his word that gives you peace and makes you become a stronger person as a result. These are life lessons that you must carry with you and share with others your experiences to also bring peace to them. Them who may not believe or not feel like they are distined for this life.
You ARE destined for this life and yes you better believe it. There is no strong person with an easy past. God saved me when I was in my darkest moment. When I was questioning what my purpose in life was. Loosing three people dearly close to me within a three month period, my failed relationships, a near death car accident almost killing my friend. I did not know what my purpose was. Nothing was going as planned. But he saved me, this is my plan, I would not be the strong confident woman I am today without any of those experiences. Keep fighting and know that you ARE loved and supported every step of the way. Be positive and believe. God gives you peace and strength within his word. Believe, Love, and always strive to be a better you. May God bless you today and always.
I've been reconnecting with my Faith and as I start this new journey I want to share some verses along the way, that really hit home and relate to life itself. So excited. Enjoy.