Proverbs 18:13 (NIV) – To answer before listening— that is folly and shame.
Posted: 28 Jan 2018 09:15 PM PST
To answer before listening--
that is folly and shame.
– Proverbs 18:13 NIV
Dave Whitehead, Senior Pastor, GraceNYC.orgOne of the great principles of negotiation is to seek first to understand, and then be understood. We are prone to give answers before we know the full situation, which only makes the person we are talking to feel invalidated in their perspectives. Parents need to listen to children, children to parents, spouse to spouse, worker to worker, and on it goes. So resist the shallow sound bites that you hear on media. Take the time to listen to each other. You may find it the most profitable thing you can do.
My Response to This
Do you ever find yourself wanting to cut someone off really quick or interrupt so you can get your opinion in? Something they said really affects you and you want to get your point in. I have found myself in this situation at times and have interrupted others. Afterwards I think to myself I shouldn’t have done that. I tend to notice others body language and when I interrupt them, it changes their chain of thought. When I see this happening I quickly say, “I’m sorry I didn't mean to interrupt go ahead”... And they continue on with what they were saying. And I take a mental note of what it is I wanted to say so when they are done I can give my response.
As people talk it’s important we allow them to say what they are going to say. The conversation will run much more smoothly and positively if we respect others and value their opinion. When we interrupt we are letting them know we don’t care what else they have to say, therefore we don’t value their opinion. We are cutting them off. We are cutting off the conversation to our own benefit. How does that make them feel?
I've been reconnecting with my Faith and as I start this new journey I want to share some verses along the way, that really hit home and relate to life itself. So excited. Enjoy.